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Oh my. Here we go again.
It looks like life has a new adventure ahead for us.
Texas Guy is taking a new job soon.
He’s leaving his customers, closing the business, and using his current skills in a new capacity.
He has some learning and growth ahead of him.
A new adventure.
This job won’t have us rolling in money but it appears to be the answer to countless prayers and seems to fit the bill in many of the aspects he was hoping for.
The downside, as Texas Guy explained it to me, is that for the next 3-4 years he will be traveling. And it sounded as though he wouldn’t be home much at all.
As he talked over everything, I sat there as his sounding board.
As he talked about not being around much for the next few years, I listened to him balance that negative with the positive aspect of being able to pay the bills.
As he talked, I heard him struggle to be convinced that it wouldn’t matter if he missed much of the kids’ lives for a few years. I heard this man, who doesn’t like to be away from home and his family for just one night, half-heartedly explain (to me or to himself, I’m not sure) that providing for his family was worth the trade-off.
After listening to him and thinking it over, I knew two things.
1 – This was a job he really wanted to take and it was my duty to do everything I could to support him.
2 – Yes, providing for the family is extremely important – as is having him a constant presence in our family, for the children, and for us.
Bottom line, I needed to find a way to make this work for everyone.
How could he take this job but still be with the family?
Well … we would have to go with him …
And we do homeschool the children so that makes it more of a possibility. …
So I think our new adventure …
… will look something like …
… this …
I think it might be a very good plan.
There are some definite pluses.
There are definitely some possible additional pluses.
And, I am definitely freaking out over a few (many) things.
More on that later.
For now, lets just try to process this new adventure.:0
Love, Laughter, Life, ... and Laundry 
that would be a great idea!!!???? I am so torn with you… I just wanna cry 😦
Hmmm…..I just got your text and saw this post. So i decided to read it since the text you sent struck my curiosity. This is defintiely something to think about and ponder. Whatever you decide, it should benefit the children and the children only. We tend to be selfish as humans, (not a desirable trait at ALL), and put our needs in front of the children. What children experience in their formative years will greatly affect their outcome as young adults and then transitioning into adulthood. Whatever contemplations you have as an adult, but more importantly as a parent, they should only be contemplations on the effects of any action on the children. You have to put aside the “adult problems”, (like time and distance on your relationship), and think of the consequences on the kiddos. Then address the relationship needs if the needs of the child are being met. I know you guys are smart and you are an exceptional mom who always considers her children over herself. Just put aside any issues you might have “relationship wise” and do what’s right for the babies. NOT having a daddy around in the youngest years for the babies can be detrimental to the growth of their mental stability and could lead to cognitive disturbances. So if going on the road is required, then so be it. But then you need to see how travelling will have an affect on them socially and emotionally. Travelling causes less friendships that are acquired and attained and can lead to isolation and lonliness. And although many children who travel with parents exhibit signs of healthy behavior, many times they repress feelings of unhappiness as to NOT make the parents unhappy. It’s tough girl……..not an easy decisin to make……..I feel for you completely and feel for Texas Guy too. I know that one of his strongest desires, (even before meeting you), was to have a family of his own with his own biological children. He has that now and I would hate to see that releationship “damaged” in anyway. Any thing we can help ya’ll with, we will. Even if it’s just to come down and have us be ya’ll’s sounding board as a couple. Love ya’ll!
PS………Sorry it was long. I guess my counseling and guidance side kicked in since I am working on that Master’s………….got carried away ;P because I love ya’ll.
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